Wij mannen denken dat we een soort Godenzonen in bed zijn. We (denken te) weten wat we moeten ondernemen om haar in de zevende hemel te krijgen. Deze ego-streling zal bij sommige van onze lezers gepast en correct zijn, maar zeker niet voor iedereen. Uiteraard heeft onze mannelijke affiniteit met porno bijgedragen aan het feit dat we denken een soort wandelende Tarzan te zijn…toch zie je er tijdens de daad waarschijnlijk uit als een soort vis-op-het-droge die wat spastische bewegingen maakt.
Geen paniek! Op een geopend Reddit-forum vertellen vrouwen openlijk over hun seks-ervaringen en geven ze de mannelijke lezers tips & tricks hoe ze beter kunnen presteren tussen de lakens. Schrijf je mee?
Listening. When we say “right there” do NOT change what you are doing!
If you enjoy it, let the girl know. It’s really awkward if the girl’s enjoying herself and moaning and the guy is just ninja-quiet. I know some guys are conditioned to be all quiet, but during sex, it comes off as weirdly contemplative and like you’re uncertain.
Foreplay does not start at the clit. It is the penultimate step. Foreplay starts with caresses and kisses and biting etc etc on all the other parts of the body – and don’t be afraid of exploring, a calf or the inside of an elbow can be just as sensitive as a nipple. After she’s all hot and bothered, then go to the clit to ramp it up and ideally make her come before penetration.
Make noise. Use your hands, grab, caress, pull hair. Go down on me. Communicate, be forthright with your desires and confident in your body.
Cut your fucking finger nails.
Don’t try to act like you’re in a porno and don’t change positions every three minutes: if we seem to like it, stick with what you are doing for a while.
Teasing. Kiss my neck, nibble my thighs, rub my feet, etc… a guy does that long enough and I’ll eventually explode with lust, pin him down and ride him till we both collapse in a big sticky mess oh god I wish my boyfriend wasn’t 1000 miles away. (Editor’s Note:Hey babe, let me know if you need a bed warmer to ease the lonely nights. At this point, I don’t even care what you look like.)
Fingering is really, really hot. Don’t try and make it feel like a dick either (I think that’s a big misconception with hand play) I get really turned on by the idea of fingers inside me curling to the front wall of the vagina and pressing the G spot, don’t quit twisting it around because I know what a cock feels like and that is not it.
Lather me in mayonnaise and bang me with a Scream mask on (Editor’s Note: Just kidding. No one has ever said that.)
Eye contact.
Say my name. Just once is enough.
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Editor Notes via Brobible
